My Jimmy

by Toisan
(Long Branch, NJ)

It's been a month since we buried my Jimmy. 28 years old, he was attacked by 2 brothers one who is 23 and one 30 who were supposed to be his friends. He was taken to the hospital and we were told he was unresponsive. After waiting in NEURO ICU for more than 24 of the worst hours of our lives he was pronounced brain dead. I have other children, my youngest ten years younger than Jimmy, but Jimmy was special to me. So here I am a month later at 2:38 a.m. Crying and trying to understand why? I'm am Christian, I'm supposed be ok. All I really feel is pain, loneliness, and unrelenting grief. Please in the name of Jesus pray for me and my family. We are very close and this has hit us particularly hard.

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Oct 21, 2013
 Still Stressing
by: Toisan

Thank you Rosemary Knauff for your kind words. Just celebrated my first birthday without my Jimmy calling to tease me about how OLD I'm getting. It was a good day. I woke up kind of waiting for his call. In a couple of days it will be three months since we buried him and I'm having such a hard time letting him go! Thanks to Journey Through Grief for giving me an outlet!
Oct 13, 2013
 A Time for Grief.
by: Rosemarie Kaupp

I am so sorry for the loss of your son Jimmy. It has only been a month. Being a Christian does not make you immune from grief which is what you are going through. Any parent who has lost a child can relate to what you say on your page.
This is the worst loss you can suffer. In order to get through it, you have to be kind to yourself. This means going with the flow whenever you a having a bad day or feelings you are unaccustomed to. It's okay if your emotions take you to a dark place for a day or part of a day. Just go there, but try to come out of it after a day or so. Meanwhile, ealize you have had a terrible shock. You can't carry on as if nothing had happened. Lighten up on cleaning, shopping, meal prep, and laundry. It is good you are a person of faith. Your faith will see you through. I will definitely pray for you and your family.

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