Mom

by Gloria
(Toledo Oh)

My Mother passed away nearly 6 months ago and I'm still having a hard time with everything. I don't cry as often but I still have my bad days. I go to work everyday and it seems to help but its the home life that I'm having a hard time with. I can't seem to get motivated to do anything. I'm hoping this passes. That its just part of the grief process. I'm so afraid I'm depressed.

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Apr 02, 2011
 Mom
by: Gloria

I still struggle each and evey day. I look for an end to this grief. I want so bad to start feeling different. To enjoy life again. I have a son and grandchildren that need me. I do my best to laugh and enjoy them but I still feel so empty inside. That scares me. Will these feelings ever go away. I feel so lonely but yet no one really fills that lonliness. I still cry often. Its been 8 months when will I stop. I guess I will stop crying when I stop crying. I look for answers and no one really has any. I know she wouldn't want me to be like this but I don't know how to go on!!
Feb 11, 2011
 Bless you
by: Anonymous

Dear Gloria,

I wish you well on your journey. It will take as long as it takes and 6 months is nothing. I lost my father at the end of 2010 and I feel that I am in much more of a tiger grief by which I mean in the thick of it now rather than last year when I would have been expecting to feel like this.

There are good days and bad days and sometimes good weeks and bad weeks. I am finding that losing my father who was a friend and soul mate is totally different to losing an aunt or grandmother even when the grandmother was also a mother figure. I think I am learning that it depends who you have lost and what your connection was with them. You grieve also for the person if their life was tough etc. It changes how you see the world and God and everything and is I suppose an opportunity for growth but it can be rather scary. It has shown me that life is very very short.

I wish you peace and strength over the next few months. Thank you for being brave enough to post your comment as it gives others the chance to respond and in doing so to help themselves to heal a little too.

I am realising that it may be a few years or longer before I can learn to live with the loss of a very special person.
Feb 08, 2011
 A Mother's Love
by: Karen

I apologize Gloria. I typed the name Janelle in error. Forgive me.
Feb 08, 2011
 A Mother's Love
by: Karen

Janelle, my mother died a week before Christmas 2010. So I do understand how you feel. That is a hole in our hearts that will never be filled, but I'll tell you it does become bearable as time goes on. It is not a day that goes by that I don't think about my Mother. There is no love like a Mother's love. Grieving is process and all the feelings you are having are normal. Pray to the good Lord for strength.
Feb 07, 2011
 Mom
by: Gloria

Janelle, Thanks for listening and the suggestion. I will keep it in mind as I go thru my day.
Feb 07, 2011
 your grief
by: Janelle

Hi Gloria,

Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time right now. It can be a very long process and every person does it differently.

This is not meant to be another "easy answer," but something you might consider. One thing that helped me during a difficult season was to try to think of one thing I could do each day that would add a little joy to my life. For me it was things like taking some time to browse in a bookstore or library, taking walks, sitting by a river, or working on a memory book. Of course it would be different things for everyone.

My thoughts are with you.

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