In loving memory of Jeff Chery

My dearest love, the day you were called home, you took a piece of me with you. not a day goes by that I don't think about you. It hurts so bad when you daughter asks for you...... She was 10 months when you passed, now she's three, Looking more like you as she aged. I know that you're in a better place but wish you were here with us ..... I will love you til the day I die..gone but not forgotten!

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Jan 24, 2012
 your loss
by: Janelle

Thanks for sharing from your loss. I resonate with that feeling that a piece of you is lost forever with the death of your husband.

My husband also died when my child was too young to remember. When my son was about three, I made this memory book for him.

It was his favorite book for over a year. He asked me to read it frequently. Later when he was in in a preschool carpool, the other mom's told me that they heard him telling the story of his dad's death to the other kids. It sounded like he was reciting much of the book to them. I believe it gave him a way to incorporate his dad's death into his own story and helped give him a sense of roots.

You may find a different way that works better for you and your child. As hard as it may be, I believe that historically, the cultural notion of shielding our children from sadness and grief has done our children a disservice. So keep sharing the story in age-appropriate ways with your daughter. You are helping her understand her story in ways we don't really understand.

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